I know you will bulk when I say being selfish is good for your self-esteem. I will go as far as saying being selfish makes you a better partner in a relationship. I feel that if your self-esteem is solid then you will have accepted yourself for who you are, you will be more confident, no self-doubt and be a stronger person for it.
As you are fully in control of your life you are more useful to anyone you are in a relationship with.
This means if you fall in love for self-less reasons, to please someone else, you are not actually meeting values on both sides that are truly important. One side of the relationship is sacrificing something and depriving yourself of the happiness you truly want. You must love something for personal reasons as well as being self fish in meeting what you actually want from life.
For example, If I were to be in a relationship where my partner said I could not watch football if I wanted to be together. This would either lead to misery and resentment on my side or anger on the other if I watch football. Neither party would actually be happy.
If you are a very positive person, who wants to get up and do things and take action. Being with someone who has a negative stance on most issues is not going to be of benefit to you. You would get sick of being stopped all the time and feel your life never went anywhere if you consistently met blocks and obstacles with every suggestion you made.
To actually love someone for the self reasons on the happiness they bring to your life is actually a compliment to them. Do not deny yourself this happiness because in fact you are deny happiness to your partner.
Felix Nutter
Step Up Speak Out
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